There is no denying the fact that sexism still exists after years of struggle against gender inequality. Our society often fails to acknowledge sexism and gender discrimination that leads to unequal treatment based on gender. Cis-women, trans men and women, non binaries and all the other gender minorities are under-represented and looked down upon in the society.
If we were to ask someone what sexism is, a common answer would be negative evaluation and derogatory behavior towards someone based on their gender. When we think of sexism we think of insults and the negative connotations associated with it. But have you ever been complimented on your appearance rather than the work you have done? Has someone ever said to you “it's so impressive that you are career-oriented, despite being a woman” or “it's so surprising to see a woman know so much about sports”? If yes, you have been a victim of benevolent sexism.
In 1996, Peter Glick and Susan Fiske proposed the concept of ambivalent sexism, a theoretical framework that differentiates sexist behavior in two kinds- Hostile sexism and Benevolent sexism.
While hostile sexism depicts anger and negative attitude, benevolent sexism consists of complimenting women based on stereotypes. Benevolent sexism is the attitude that disregards women and connotes inferiority while having a positive tone to it. The reinforcement of the idea that women are sensitive and need to be protected by men only harbors gender stereotypes and ignites a deep-rooted flame of sexism. It also creates a stereotypical image of gender roles depicting that men need to be aggressive, dominant and competitive while women should be poised, beautiful and gentle.
Benevolently sexist comments can be tough to recognize because they are compliments after all. However, these “so called” non problematic compliments are often unsettling and unnerving. Examples of benevolent sexism include complimenting women on being compassionate, nurturing, graceful and having motherly instincts. This can hurt women who are authoritative and assertive and cause men to disassociate from being gentle and compassionate.
Sexism, be it hostile or benevolent not only creates inequality and stereotypes but also demotivates people. Remarks like “women are more caring and nurturing than men” might reinstate the responsibility of caregiving and stay-at-home parenting on women. The ripple effect of this mindset can be the absence of paternity leaves for men as organizations do not regard men as caregivers.
Resistance against benevolent sexism is also difficult as it is often hidden behind the mask of chivalry. Benevolent sexism is acceptable by many and said to be well-intended. However, this raises a serious concern regarding the mindsets we are raising.
When gender discrimination hides behind flattery, it only discourages people to fight for equality. It is important to recognize sexism in all its forms. Women do not need to be put on a pedestal and applauded for having “feminine traits”. By remaining unified, we can unravel sexism and stand up against false benevolence. The only way to move forward and be free of gender roles is to question the norms and refrain from conforming to patriarchal conventions. We can only lead to the path of change by discussing and exposing every ounce of sexism.
Author - Maitree
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